Hello and welcome to Dear Adult.
This is a Blog about life, but it is certainly not an ordinary story.
My name is Biljana.
For many years, I worked as a Primary School Teacher in Melbourne. I have always been interested in what motivates and inspires students to have inner drive, to discover, to remain curious and fascinated about the world around them. In the earlier days I spent a great deal of time looking at the connection between the emotional wellbeing of students to their learning outcomes. Many teachers at the time were seeing a correlation between emotional wellbeing and student learning outcomes. As usual, teachers tend to be ahead of the mainstream ideas, intuitively knowing and having a strong sense of what is happening with their students. Eventually, research catches up with teacher intuition as we have seen in the area of student wellbeing.
Thank goodness for that!
For me however, that desire to understand went further as I searched for real strategies to help students to not only be aware of their emotional state but to also learn skills that could help them manage their emotions in a positive and meaningful way. To identify and to name emotions is one thing, but to have the tools to take action is a whole different level.
This led me to go back to school myself where I studied the ancient art of yoga, yoga therapy, meditation, art therapy, massage, EFT tapping technique (not an ancient therapy itself but deriving from the ancient understanding of Traditional Chinese Medicine and Meridians – energetic pathways) I learned about Chakras (energy centres), colour therapy, music therapy, reflexology and so much more. I couldn’t stop, it was all so fascinating and comforting to know that there are literally hundreds of ways to actively feel good, positive and balanced. However, I had all this knowledge and all these ways to feel really good, yet daily I struggled with students who were not able to manage their emotions and actions. Children who lacked confidence, could not focus and had difficulty getting along with others.
Eventually, mindfulness and yoga made their way into schools as a way of quietening the mind and increasing student focus. All good things come to those who wait and for the record, it also proved that I wasn’t just some mad hippie going on about the benefits of teaching children how to quieten the mind.
For me however, I was living in two very seperate worlds. I had a school life where I was bound by the limitations of what I could do as a classroom teacher and then I had my other life as a yoga and meditation facilitator. Some people refer to it as the alternative way, however I don’t like the idea of alternative as I believe in the concept of oneness. Alternative lifestyle more or less implies a concept of ‘them and us’, there is an undertone of division. On the other hand, a holistic approach encompasses all aspects of individual needs and allows access to everything available. Living conservatively in one area of my life and alternatively in another area had certainly hit it’s expiry date. I grew tired of being so many different people.
All of this has led me here, to this Blog. This is the beginning of my next career as a writer, a speaker and a facilitator of all things worthwhile along the journey of self realisation. A place where I am finally free to not just be ‘alternative’ but holistic and authentic. Combining years of experience working with children and a very strong sense of intuition about how to provide the best possible springboard into successful adulthood.
Upgraded, improved and open-minded adults are now required to nurture and unconditionally love all children so that they are free to create a more harmonious world. If you’re up for it, stay with us on this journey of learning through the eyes of children and in doing so, reconnect with your own inner child. Reclaim your sense of adventure as though life has never ever disappointed you. We owe it to our children, to stay hopeful and enthusiastic about the future while living consciously in the present.
Here you will discover endless life lessons through the eyes of my favourite kind of people, the little ones
honest, real, optimistic, colourful
full of love and joy
Although I have many years of experience working with children, I am in no way calling myself an expert. My writing is not academic, and will not include latest research, facts and figures. There are plenty of academics out there doing a great job providing the world with such information. I am not one of them. My goal is to simplify the research and make it available to a wider audience through story. Story telling being the oldest and most continuous form of human experience and human connection present in every culture and part of our physical world. Stories not only have the ability to articulate and express our emotional state but also evoke those dormant emotions deep within us, convincing us to live more than we do, to love a lot more than we do and to have compassion and understanding for others.
My words are intuitive, reflective and do not serve to provide answers. Instead, I hope to plant seeds of thought within every individual reading. To give people something to think about, relate to, agree or disagree with and reflect upon.
I am just a story teller.
It took me a long time to give myself permission to write in this style. After all, I have come from an academic setting and it is certainly hard to shake off the idea that writing without providing evidence is nothing but self-indulgent gibberish. However, after much thought I still decided that reflective and anecdotal is more my style of writing because I have spent most of my days working and conversing with people, mostly children but also adults, from many parts of the world. This is my research and it has formed my narrative about the aspects of life that relate to us all.
The other thing you need to know is that by sharing parts of my writing which will one day be published in a book, you are seeing the raw and unedited version. It’s not perfect and if I wait for perfect, it will never arrive and neither will the stories.
For now, I’m excited about working with the Dear Adult community. One that truly understands the worth of moving forward together in a non-competitive manner. A community of people willing to accept change as the only way forward.
Welcome to our community!!!
Welcome to a world where children speak and adults listen!